#26. Building Healthy Boundaries: Helen Snape, 43

Sometimes we lose sight of what we want in our lives, our dreams. Midlife can be a time to redirect ourselves.

Today we are talking about the insidious business of people pleasing. It’s something that so many of us do without even thinking. It’s become a habit that my guest Helen Snape gently reminds us that we can change. She’s been there herself. Helen and I talk about:

  • The roots of people pleasing in her life

  • How a scarcity mindset limits us

  • How to reparent our inner child

  • How a childhood of bullying made her “dial down” her true self, and what served as her wake-up call

  • Why Helen wants to busts the idea that women should be nice.

After the interview, Helen confessed off the air that she’s only recently begun to tell her story. I admire this so much. We as humans are bound by stories. We see our pain, our joy, our idiosyncrasies in others. I asked her if I could share that with you. She agreed. I think you’ll understand after hearing her powerful story, which she so eloquently tells.

Helen Snape became a transformational relationship coach, after 19 years in Human Resources and Development. She works with women on breaking free from people-pleasing, codependency, and bad relationships to build a life they love. Helen loves walking in the woods, meditating daily, and dancing to YouTube videos. She lives with her partner in Surrey, England.

Get a copy of Helen’s newly released book, “Building Healthy Boundaries - An Over-Givers Guide to When to Say Yes and How to Say No in Relationships.”

Connect with Helen: Website | Book | Twitter | Instagram

I’d love to hear what you think about the episode. Is people pleasing something you struggle with or have overcome? Every episode has a comments section on the website, so please check it out below and share your thoughts. We’re all in this together. You can also email me and find me on social media. Thanks for listening! 

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